Quiz: Are You Sabotaging Yourself?By
By Ann Yaggie, Certified Coach & Executive Consultant
Although it may at first seem difficult to believe, many of us occasionally do things to thwart our own efforts. Do you suffer from:
» Habitual lateness
» Extreme disorganization
» Not following up on sales leads
» Perpetual apologizing
Self-sabotage takes on a variety of guises and affects people of all ages, professions, and economic levels. This nasty habit is actually a silent killer because it often prevents us from living the life we truly want for ourselves.
Are you interested in finding out if you’re stunting your own potential? Take this Self-Sabotage Quiz to see whether you might be working against yourself and preventing your own aspirations from being realized. Answer “yes” or “no” to each of the following questions:
The Self-Sabotage Quiz
|1. It takes me at least half an hour to locate a document I need to send to someone.|
|2. I can be indecisive and fearful. As a result, chances often pass me by.|
|3. I tend to start projects with great gusto, but have great difficulty finishing them.|
|4. My financial situation is chronically chaotic.|
|5. My actions often jeopardize my relationships, my job, and/or my financial stability.|
|6. I worry a lot about what others think of me.|
|7. I practice compulsive behaviors (excessive eating, unhealthy substances or activities).|
|8. I always seem to be struggling.|
|9. I’ve been told I have a problem expressing anger appropriately.|
|10. I put off things I want or need; Procrastination and reliability are problems for me.|
|11. I’m still not living the life I truly want, and I’m starting to lose hope that I ever will.|
|12. I frequently have the thought that I can’t or shouldn’t do what I really want.|
|13. My relationships tend to eventually fall apart, or I stay in unhealthy relationships.|
|14. When I consider working out, I think about all the things I “should” be doing instead.|
|15. I’m often late to work and late with assignments; this has hurt my career.|
|16. I avoid confrontation and/or fawn over others in order to be liked/win their favor.|
|17. I repeatedly make self-deprecating, belittling comments about myself.|
|18. I know I could do more with my life if I could just get out of my own way.|
If you’ve answered “yes” to three or more of these questions, it’s time to start the journey toward giving yourself a fair shot at making your life what you want it to be.
Self-defeating behaviors often mask a fear of change and growing. When we deliberately hamper our own efforts, we avoid the knowledge that our life is up to us, and that we do indeed get to choose. Just imagine your life if you put as much energy and creativity into manifesting goals as you do avoiding them. It’s not easy to change self-sabotaging patterns, but with time and practice—and a good dose of self-love—it is possible to end a self-defeating cycle and live the life we truly want for ourselves.
Are you interested in a helping hand as you tackle your own self-sabotaging habits? Contact Ann today to learn how coaching can help you to realize your own fantastic potential.
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